I’m not gonna lie, this post is extremely personal to me. It has been sitting in my draft box for three months and, quite frankly, it’s because I didn’t have it in me to share it. Self reflection can be hard. The year I turned 18 was very influential for me and if I were to choose a point in my life to change things, it would be that year. So here are 10 things I wish I could say to my 18 year old self.
Like most people, life has not been easy for me. I have endured some tough times and there are some that I wish I didn’t have to go through. I know things happen for a reason and I am grateful that those things turned me into the woman I am today. But…that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t try and prevent some of them if I could.
Having said that, I decided to make a list of 10 things I would want my 18 year old self to know. The year I turned 18 is a year that had a lot of ups and downs. Since I see this year as a pivotal moment in my life, I figured this would be the best age to center this post around.
- Create a list of 5 deal breakers to base your relationships on. Example: Any form of abuse, saying curse words to degrade one another in an argument, etc. Stick by them because it will save you so much heartache.
- Focus on the friends that are genuinely there for you. Out of all the friends you have right now, only 1 will still be a good friend to you in the years to come.
- Take time to learn about your body. Yes, I’m talking about sex. Allow it time to mature, take your reproductive health more seriously and recognize that complete satisfaction does exist.
- Save money. You have very little to pay for at the moment, you should definitely focus those funds towards something more important. It will help you immensely in the long run!
- Don’t be afraid to go to school! The enrollment process seems scary, but it isn’t. Just go to the New Student Orientation and I promise everything will be explained to you. Plus your nerves will almost fully disappear.
- It’s not enough to say you love your body, you need to actually love it! I know, in high school everyone is the size of a toothpick. It can be hard to see yourself as anything other than huge in that environment. Once you’re out of there you will understand how appreciated your body really is! You are so beautiful and it will never limit your respectable options.
- You can forgive someone and also cut ties with them. Remember that if someone hurts you the same way more than once, it’s no longer an accident. Trust your gut on people, it will be right most of the time.
- Don’t be in such a rush to move out. It is not always the best option, no matter how much you think it will be. If you really want to move out, look into having a roommate that you aren’t so close to or save a bunch so you can do it on your own.
- You don’t have to be that person that always “see’s the good” in others. Every single person you meet will have their good qualities, but if the bad outweighs them, it’s okay to remove them from your life. Stop feeling guilty!
- Your feelings are always real and valid. They don’t make you right in every situation, but they should still be respected. If something makes you upset, that’s real and it should be addressed. You don’t have to label yourself as overly sensitive.