How often do you find yourself doubting your capabilities? Do you look in the mirror and criticize every last detail? Maybe you look at other people and think “Wow, if only I was like them.” If you said yes to any of the following, you may have taken a hit in your self-esteem & confidence lately. Learn 10 easy ways to get them both back on track.
It is purely human to lack self-esteem & confidence at one point in your life. Think of the most confident person you know? Go on, really quick. Got it? Now imagine this person feeling exactly the way you do at your lowest point! It almost seems unbelievable, but nearly everyone has felt that way. Once you put it into that perspective, there’s only one thing to do: Make these necessary changes in your life.
Recognize that, no matter what, you will grow to be more than you are right now.
This is a fact. I’m sure you’re running a bunch of what-if scenarios in your head to prove me wrong, but the truth is, you can’t. You are always changing which also means that you are always growing. The good stuff and the bad stuff contributes to this growth, so take it all in.
Think positively, all of the time. Your thoughts are powerful.
I’m sure you’ve heard of positive affirmations, meditation and other methods to grow your self confidence. What is so important about them? They focus on how your inner self talks to you. Our thoughts are directly related to how we see ourselves, and if we see ourselves negatively then that directly impacts our confidence.
Accept the things in your life that you can’t change.
I genuinely mean the things you can’t change. Not the things you choose not to do because of excuse A-Z. You might realize that the things you feel that you can’t change, are actually things you can. But if you get to a point where you really can’t change an aspect of your life or personality, then accept that! Wishing to change the impossible will get you no where.
If you are always trying to be someone you are not then of course your self esteem and confidence will take a hit! You’re pretending to be something you’re not. You have to value yourself and understand that you can bring good to other people by simply being YOU. I’m not saying everyone will like you, but the people who matter will.
Live with a purpose.
Don’t think this means that you have to find your life’s purpose. Focus on making small goals that are easily achievable. But don’t stop there, continuously make new goals. I don’t care how successful you feel, you should always have a new goal that you are reaching for. I often go into a slump because I slip on making goals, it will catch up to you fast!
When people start to have low self esteem and lacking in self confidence they can sometimes slip in their hygiene. Take the time to up your skin care, take a shower, shave, comb your hair, etc. The better you look & smell the better you will feel!
Have good posture.
This is one I am sure you have been told for years. But there’s a reason for that, it will make you feel better. Besides the physical harm it can cause you, slouching will affect your self confidence. There was a study that said people with upright posture have a stronger self image. It’s also true that good posture makes you more attractive, which is a plus no matter how you look at it.
Disconnect with invaluable people.
You become the people you surround yourself with. Look at your friends, what connects you? You will find that some people you associate with only bring you down. Keep in mind that the easiest people to make friends with are the ones that don’t have anything to bring to the table.
Find a mentor.
This is definitely a piggy back off of the last point because it also focuses on who you surround yourself with. If you don’t have one already, find a mentor. Look at the people around you that have experience in whatever interests you. Network more with these people and learn from them. You will benefit in this way tremendously.
Get out of your comfort zone.
The more comfortable you are the less inspired you will be to try new things. As humans we want to be comfortable in our lives, but don’t let that roadblock you from trying new things. Action leads to success, and if you decide you can’t be bothered to take action because you’re “fine”, you’ll eventually realize that “fine” isn’t good enough. But by then, it might be too late.