During my free time I prefer to be cuddled up in bed with my boyfriend, watching Netflix. I could do that almost every day and hardly get bored. Most people would classify me as an introvert, and that’s okay. But for some reason people still think all introverts are isolated weirdos. I think it’s because there are still several myths and misconceptions about what being an introvert actually is.
Honestly, I used to think that being an introvert meant something negative. I often felt like the most successful people were the ones who could captivate a room and be the center of attention. I think most people feel that way, but it isn’t true. Introverts have frequently been some of the most successful people such as JK Rowling, Bill Gates, Michael Jordan and even Meryl Streep!
~ Mahatma Gandhi
“In a gentle way, you can shake the world.”
Anyways, I have really embraced being an “introvert.” But in doing so, I have found that there are some things people still don’t get. While I could list a lot of them, I decided to focus on 8 that I have experienced first hand. I’m sure you can resonate with a few.
Introverts don’t go out.
I am definitely an introvert, but that does not mean I only like to stay at home. While I have referred to myself as a home body before, I also enjoy going out. Yes, even to bars, parties, fairs or even haunted houses. The difference is that I don’t feel bored not going out. It makes more sense in the picture below.
I feel the most energized when I’m hanging out at home by myself, with my family, my boyfriend or going on a dinner date with my best friend. To me, that describes what being an introvert is. It’s more about having meaningful company. I don’t need to have people around just to fill the space, I’d rather spend time alone if that were the case.
Introverts are buzz kills.
I generally make plans at least a day in advance and once I do, I stick with them. That can cause a bit of an issue when it comes to how much “social energy” I have on that day. I will feel 1 of 2 ways.
- Vibrant, full of energy, & the life of the party.
- Quiet, observant & a bit standoffish. (It just means I need a little time to recharge, be patient)
“Recharging” means they are upset.
This one bugs the living “you know what” out of me. When I refer to recharging it does not mean I’m upset or depressed. When socializing, I will get to a point where I might isolate myself a little and get quiet. That is mainly to allow myself a little space to do some recharging, because I am not the energizer bunny.
I know I have definitely been the girl in that meme before. I’d say most introverts agree that when this happens, be patient. Especially if we decide to stay and power through it, we will need some time to recharge. You don’t have to ignore us, but don’t try to grill us about it either. Just let us find our comfort level in the situation and if we recharge enough to join back in, we will.
Introverts aren’t good at making friends.
I think a lot of people get pretty caught up in the idea that they need to be “popular.” This is often associated with having a lot of friends. That is not the way most introverts work. It takes a little more than usual for us to unveil our true selves.
Most introverts are all about quality over quantity. That is particularly true in our friendships as well. We don’t have the time to be putting our best selves into a multitude of people that don’t actually care. So I wouldn’t say that we aren’t good at making friends, but that we prefer to focus on building 1 or 2 close friendships.
Introverts don’t like people.
Contrary to that misconception, introverts can really wow the people they talk to. In fact, we can even come across as extroverts because we are very good at putting on a show when we need to. We can network as good as the next guy, so don’t count us out.
“Introverts are capable of acting like extroverts for the sake of work they consider important, people they love, or anything they value highly.”
Even still, I think most people picture introverts as someone who never speaks unless spoken to, avoids people and keeps solely to themselves. Like some kind of hermit. On an extreme scale, there are introverts like that, but generally that is not the case. (We don’t do this to our front doors…)
Introverts only spend time alone.
The time I spend alone is actually very minimal. But, I don’t usually spend my time with more than one other person. That is way too draining and I wouldn’t be able to keep up with everything. When people say the word introvert they automatically see this:
That is not the case! Okay, correction, in very minimal instances some introverts are like that. But, being an introvert is more about not minding being alone rather than preferring to be alone. There is a huge difference.
Introverts have low self esteem.
Oh man, this one is honestly such a rude misconception. People assume that because you don’t want attention on you and you don’t try to stand out, you must not feel good enough about yourself because if you did, you would do those things. Who comes up with this stuff?
But seriously, just because I am not prone to drawing attention to myself, that doesn’t mean I don’t think highly of myself. A lot of people who think of themselves as an introvert feel the same. We love who we are and don’t feel like we need to change to accept ourselves.
Introverts need to be more like extroverts.
I hate seeing and hearing stuff that focuses on why introverts should become extroverts. It’s one thing for an introverted person to want to become more extroverted, but it’s another to imply an introvert can’t be successful unless they become an extrovert. Success is not always determined by being in the lime light, often success comes from observation and concentration.
Introverts have that and are able to bring valuable ideas and processes forward as a result. We might not give a new one on the spot, but we are really good about perfecting things on our own before we showcase them. That could be jokes, a business proposal, homework, a good recipe, etc. It’s not a common occurrence that someone says an extrovert should be more introverted, so why should the inverse be happening?